… And we said “Yes” to our “Happily Ever After.”

Happily ever after

We are millennials. We are afraid of commitments and phobic of marriages. We are afraid of change and can’t understand the fundamentals of adjustments, compromises, and sacrifices when it comes to relationships. We want to live ‘happily ever after’ without putting much effort and coming out of the comfort zone. Still, in this era where Facebook status is more important than a relationship status, we are learning to say ‘yes’ to the marriage!

So I was thinking, how our thought process has changed from “I don’t want to get married” to “I want to spend my entire life with you!” How our perception has changed from “How someone can spend the entire life tolerating the same person” to “How to live survive alone in life!” – we grew up!

What actually changed our minds?

  • Patience?
  • Positive vibes?
  • Fine hopes?
  • Freedom?
  • Dreams?
  • Or just a person who says (and truly means) “I will there for you, no matter what!”

I think all of the above. This is a journey. It evolves time to time. When two persons decide that they want to stay together, each of them has to try hard to sustain their relationship. Each of them must have the patience to understand each other’s perceptions and aspirations. Both of them must support each other even when the ideas are not clear. They should not change each other as he/she is the SAME person you fell in love with!

We can’t steal originality, innocence, and craziness. Instead, we can give enough love to yourself and your partner. Initially; when I was scared and confused, my partner just held my hand and told me, “Take your time!” And that’s it. This small gesture of kindness did all the magic. Being kind to each other is very important.

Finding “HOME”

Frankly speaking, when we feel that a particular person is “Home” – who makes us feel safe, secured, and protected – You are there! It definitely takes time. To find a perfect, cozy, and little messy home takes time! But it’s worth it. We have to be lost to find each other. And when we find HOME – our happy place – all our fears of “marriage” vanishes. We feel proud to choose each other and have faith that we’ll be good.

Stay in love guys. Keep saying ‘Sorry’ and ‘Thank you’ when needed. Keep saying ‘I love you’ and ‘You are important’ always!Find your HOME and decorate it with love, life, and laughter.┬áLet go the ego, have a lot of respect for each other, LISTEN to each other and have fun. Stay peacefully and embrace the warmth.

11 thoughts on “… And we said “Yes” to our “Happily Ever After.”

  1. Many Many congratulations for your wedding in advance..
    Shape well your future with love, care, trust and respect….

  2. Popular Success mantra for happy married life
    “SORRY”

    Use in any situation, it will definitely work.

    All the best

  3. Married life is a two Wheeler which can’t run without each other so try to understand each other’s weakness and strength like rear wheel in two Wheeler takes load and front wheel is guiding the vehicle. If either of wheel gets puncture, the vehicle stops…. All the best and god bless….

  4. We have passed through the generation were marriages were done without even meeting a person and carry on the same with extreme level of adjustments(Especially women).. Now this may be a hard to believe thing for new generation.. Vice versa being friends even after divorce was a beyond imagination of the old generation..
    Love and its”Izhaar” time by time towards the companion is necessary as you said really means..
    I wish both of you all the happiness in your upcoming married life..Best example is in front of you..

  5. Nice article shaileee…

    A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person. After marriage, husband and wife become two sides of a coin, they just can’t face each other, but still they stay together…
    The secret of a happy marriage remains a secret…

  6. Life can unbalanced if, putting words like “I” and “You” . It becomes balanced by putting word “We”.
    Most relevant Example is reading of number “6” from own sights.

  7. Congratulations for a new journey of life and to enter in 2nd stage of Ashram that is ‘Grihastha’ ashram. The Goal in marriage is not to think alike by think together. Marriage is a life long journey that thrives on love, commitment, trust ,respect, communication, patience and companionship. Happy marriage begin when we marry the ones we love and they blossom when we love the ones we marry. A perfect marriage is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other. A strong marriage -being strong for each other in the moments when the other feels weak. Have a happy stays together and endless journey of life.

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